SRR Blog C-1If you’ve followed my facebook page, you know that for quite some time now,  I’ve signed each good morning post with – Carpe Diem!!!  Rose ♥ ♥ ♥

It’s not just some random attempt at cleverness.  This means something to me.  Seize the Day.  What a POWERFUL phrase!  I’ve talked about the difference between a life powered by inertia or auto-pilot, and one where you grab it by the horns to create a life you’ve consciously chosen.  In my own case, Go Big or GO Home; Travels Outside My Comfort Zone; and, It’s What You Do With What You’ve Got – have all been part of SEIZE THE DAY!  I take this concept pretty seriously.

From our friends at Wikipedia:

Carpe diem is a Latin aphorism – an original thought, spoken or written in a laconic (concise) and memorable form.  It is usually translated “seize the day”, and comes from a poem in the Odes (book 1, number 11) in 23 BC by the poet Horace.  The meaning of “carpe diem” as used by Horace is not to ignore the future, but rather not to trust that everything is going to fall into place for you and taking action for the future today.  The phrase “carpe diem” is often used differently in contemporary popular culture, to justify reckless behavior.

My use of the phrase Carpe Diem has NOTHING to do with reckless behavior, and EVERYTHING to do with personal empowerment.

There came that point in my life where I thought – Is this all there is??  Such an odd thing really considering I was happily married and had so much to be thankful for.  Yet I felt like I was just going through the motions each day.  It really sucked.  I think the first breakthrough for me was realizing that it was within my power to create change.  I didn’t have it all mapped out, and there most certainly was an evolution as I learned more about myself.  Ultimately though I’ve done what I set out to do, although it will always be a work in progress. 😉

Some people are prompted to make big changes because of major life events.  Things like surviving a major health crisis, or the  beginning of empty nester life, or the end of a long-term relationship.  My recent major life event – my father’s passing – gave rise to re-evaluation.  Have my last six years created the change and the life I was looking for? 

SRR Blog C-2Exactly what do I think I’ve accomplished?

I’ve come to understand that life is fluid, complete with ebbs and flows, and that things will continue to evolve.

I’ve experienced incredible changes in the last six years.  And although not everything has been easy, it has all been worth it.  So if at times I feel like I’ve taken a step backward, I take comfort in knowing that two steps forward and one step back is STILL forward progress.  Life IS an adventure!!!

Sexy Hubby and I have created a level of communication that allows us to navigate these ebbs and flows, and ensure that both our needs are being met.

We have great peace of mind knowing our communication is based on Say What You Mean, and Mean What You Say.  Neither of us is expected to be mind-readers.  There is no need to try to read between the lines.  And we both understand that we each want the other to be happy.  Does this mean there is never conflict?  That wouldn’t be realistic – would it?  (Although I think we have MUCH less than most couples.)  It means we respect each other enough to be honest with our communication – even when it’s difficult.

I’ve embraced my sexuality and come to realize that in doing so I finally feel whole.

This was the big surprise!!  What started as a sexual reconnection between Sexy Hubby and I became the basis for all that followed.  Learning about my body, and all the pleasure it can experience was the start.  I continue to explore with Sexy Hubby and with others.  It’s  an alternative lifestyle that I could never have imagined before, and it works for us.  I feel authentic and true to myself with this major life change.  (I always feel compelled at this point to say that I am NOT the evangelist of “alternative lifestyles”.  You need to do what feels right for you.)

I’m comfortable in my own skin.

How freaking awesome is this!!!  You can’t imagine how liberating it is to feel this way.  Or better yet, maybe you can because you’ve experienced it too!  I’ve talked about reveling in my perfect imperfection, making the most of what I’ve got, embracing myself as I am – right this minute.  Operation Eat Right and Exercise, along with my sexual exploration brought me to this.  Making health and fitness my priority (as opposed to a number on the scale or a dress size), eating healthy food that I enjoy, exercising in a manner I enjoy, and practicing moderation have me feeling better than I did 15 years ago.  I’m not putting my life on hold waiting to lose those “last ten pounds”, or fit into that dress that I bought one size too small.  Fuck that nonsense!!

I make the effort to find a little joy in every day – because I have no guarantee of how many days I have left.

My father was healthy in every way possible… until the cancer diagnosis.  And then it was a very aggressive form and he was gone in just over a year.  I’m not delaying my quest for happiness.  I’m building the pursuit of happiness into my daily routine.  Hence my enjoyment of simple pleasures.  And that is really about attitude.  In all likelihood, I had many opportunities for simple pleasures before, but I was just too oblivious to realize it.

So back to the question.  Have my last six years created the change and the life I was looking for?  Absofuckinglutely!!!!!  In fact, I’ve exceeded all expectations!  Just a regular person, taking charge of her own life.  Which means if I can do it, odds are you can do it too. 🙂

Carpe Diem!!!  Rose   ♥ ♥ ♥